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The Power of Playfulness

Last night my girlfriend asked, why are you so afraid of being happy? I found the question remarkably poignant. It was something I could easily imagine myself asking somebody else who had very little to complain about, but to be on the receiving end was confronting to...

Shame: The Slippery Slide to the Bottom

Shaming others is our way of controlling others. We shame children who speak out. We shame employees who resist our systems. We shame the poor for free loading. We also have a tendency to shame those who go out on a limb and express themselves artistically. We...

The Sink or Swim Myth

We tell ourselves it’s sink or swim when we dive head first into our own thing. It sounds about right, but it doesn’t quite match up. Sure, there are a lot of people treading water, and there are even more gathered at the edge, afraid to get in, but there...

Breaking Free of the Yabby Container

As children we are scooped up and placed in the yabby container. Here we are fed certainty. The certainty of grades and careers. The certainty of protection and growth. The certainty of restrictions and limitations. The result is that most people can’t tolerate...