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We have all experienced some form of injustice. What separates us is how we choose to play the cards we are dealt. Some choose to embrace the give-take nature of the game. They are prepared to fail early and fail often in order to make progress.

Others learn helplessness. They choose to fold their cards before they are even dealt. Partially because it requires no effort. And partially because it is accountability free. But mostly because it proves them right – because a self-fulfilling prophecy is easy to predict.

The danger of losing, however, is that it is addictive. It is addictive because of the story that comes with it. The story tells us that it is not our fault. It tells us, If only the outside world would understand me, then my genius would shine through.

It’s a pretty good deal. As long as we are carrying this story around with us, we have transferred the blame to someone else. We are free from responsibility. We are safe.

At some point, however, it comes time to give up the story that it is not our fault. And to give up the attention that comes with sharing the story. Sure, the story comforts us. It tells us that others are lucky and circumstance is cruel. But it is also fiction.

What we choose to look at is what we see. Look closely. The only common thread between each of our problems is us. Only through recognising this can we begin to work on our addiction to losing.

Find the weeds and pull them out.